Pity date: I feel bad for my ex

I dumped my BF, but we’re secretly back together. I don’t really like him, though. I just feel sorry for him and don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Dear Too Shy,

It’s good to be considerate of a guy’s feelings, not good to date someone out of pity. Tell him you’re sorry if you’ve seemed a bit flaky lately but that you really feel you two are much better as friends. Be nice, but be clear. It’s important to overcome your shyness so you can be up front with him.